Memorial Day Memories

I still remember the day like yesterday, sitting at my desk in the Mowery Alumni Center at Ohio Wesleyan University when the phone rang.

“Hi Toby, this is blank blank with the Dispatch.”

Army Staff Sgt. Shamus Goare
Staff Sgt. Shamus Goare

I worked in public relations, the media calling was not a total shock. But the next words out her mouth put my jaw on the floor. “Do you know Shamus Goare? I’d like to talk to you about his life.”

That’s how I found out that one of my best friends from high school had been killed in Afghanistan on June 28, 2005. I could learn a lot more, but I haven’t been able to do it. You see, Staff Sgt. Goare was part of the ill-fated mission that became a best-selling book and movie Lone Survivor. I even have an autographed copy on the book shelf. My dad read it, several friends have read it, but I haven’t been able to read it or watch the movie.

And I don’t pretend that the loss of my friend can in anyway be compared to the losses felt by spouses, children and parents all over the nation. But 25-years after graduation I’d love to have a cold brew and talk aviation with him like we did so often in high school … well except the cold brew part.

But Staff Sgt. Goare had bigger plans and I’m beyond honored to have called this “”Nighstalker” a friend.

God bless all our fallen heroes and may their families be remembered every day of the year not just on Memorial Day.

Click here to read the Military Times article following the funeral.